I have been investigating the world of empaths for about 2 years, now. There is so much information out there and a lot of it is contradictory. It is really confusing. The part I detest most, a lot of empaths are tied to the new age movement. If you are at all familiar with the word of God and practice Christianity, you understand how the Holy Spirit plays a vital role in your life, and it is through him, we are able to tap into these wonderful gifts that not only edify and lift up the body of believers through spiritual gifting but also glorify our Father. We also recognize that the abilities and natural gifting’s we all carry is a direct result of God working through us to further his kingdom opposed to the mediums and psychics etc… who try to obtain the same results through the spirit world of craft, tonics, crystals, séances, yoga, transcendentalism, hypnosis and the like.

How you choose to use your uniqueness, empathic or empath skills determines where the power comes from. Sadly and thankfully, you can’t be in both pools. You are either living for the light, God’s light or the darkness, Lucifer’s darkness. He is the ultimate deceiver and sadly, many people fall into these seductive lies that will strip you of your innocence and taint your soul. Once you become enmeshed with the darkness, many are not even aware of the devastation it will bring to your daily life. Many people feel cursed, like a heavy shadow is hovering over them. They feel confused treading between feeling enlightenment and burden. Despite your sage, crystals, tonics, spiritual emblems and mediation practices, you still cannot gain a consistent sense of peace. It becomes a daily chore to keep up with the routines, and if you are off, it must be a result of not doing something just right. It is truly senseless and cumbersome. The good news, you can always be washed clean through the blood of Jesus. You just have to ask him to come into your life and repent (acknowledge) your shortcomings and ask him to be your Savior, believing and professing that he is the son of God who walked in the flesh. You can also ask for the Holy Spirit to fill you with his anointing. You will see more miracles and experience more freedom in him then in all of the years you practiced paganism, witchcraft, occult, new age modalities. I promise.  You will also begin to see through the deception and recognize all the lies you previously believed. It will make you angry and it will hopefully push you to speak out.

Here is an excerpt of an article I wrote and published on http://truthprophecy.com/creationism-vs-occult-paganism-new-age/. If you are interested in understanding how the new age movement developed check out the link. Excerpt:

God creates Holy Angels “sons of God.” Lucifer the most beautiful of all angels fights with God. Lucifer (Satan) and third of God’s Holy Angels follow him and are hurled to earth. Battles begin between God’s Holy Angels and Lucifer’s fallen angels. God creates Man “children of God. “Man is tempted by Satan and succumbs by eating the apple from tree of knowledge, which Satan knew would bring them death. God kicks Adam and Eve out of the Garden into the world to live out their remaining days because they would not repent for their sin (take responsibility for their actions). Angels called “Watchers” 200 total, sin against God by taking on human wives and bearing children called Nephilim, giants.  In turn, these Fallen Angels teach their human-wives secrets from the heavenlies. Azazel taught man how to make swords, knives, armor, shields from the metals of the earth. He also taught women to make mirrors, jewelry, make up and wearing of precious stones. This eventually led mankind to fornicate and become corrupt. Semyaza taught enchantments and root cutting; Armaros taught how to resolve enchantments; Barakel taught astrology; Kokabel taught contellations; Temel taught-astrology andAsradel taught about the moon (book of Enoch).  As you can see, fallen angels are the ones who taught humanity the ways of the occult, it is that old but not older than God. The new age is the old age and is the new age. God has seen everything under the sun, there is nothing that can be created or taken away that he has not already witnessed. He is the beginning and the end. He is the creator of all things.  Check out the link above to read a more in depth understanding as to why. Don’t be afraid to check out the wealth of information provided through different links.

Despite all of the new age crap out there, some people seem to really get it. Caroline Van Kimmenade, owner of the happy sensitive website gets it. You can be a Christian and seek her help. She doesn’t draw from a new age agenda nor does she bother with religion at all. She simply helps the person seeking, to understand their gifting better. She can help teach practical skills that help people like us rid of toxic energy, cut cords, stop sponging, and to learn how to live from a proactive stance. Happy sensitive also provides coaching and online sessions to determine whether you are an empath (clairsentient), highly sensitive person or both. http://thehappysensitive.com/.  She even goes further with understanding narcissism and how these people will destroy your inner peace and sense of presence, if you let them. First hand, Caroline provides in depth truth and realty of what people like us, inevitably attract, the narcissist.  She has helped my growth in my areas of empath ability as well as why and how I have attracted narcissist into my life. These folks are toxic and will take your innate desire to heal, trash it, and you, to pieces.

Feel free to check out her website, she has many articles with great information as well.  Being a professional mental health and biblical counselor, I still don’t understand everything, but I do recognize empaths are dealing with the supernatural abilities, not psychological logic. Throw the psychology away if you are going to try and grasp your new reality.

Below is a great article I found online:   http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-tips-help-you-love-empath.html  By Ashley Gulla

What empaths need from their partners:

  1.  We cannot change, so please don’t expect that. 

Nothing will drive an Empath further away more than if you try to change our sensitivity and emphatic abilities. YES, we are different from the majority of the people you know but so what? We’re sensitive. We’re intuitive. We get easily overstimulated. We cry. We see the beauty in everything. We feel the pain of others. Don’t try to change us. It won’t work and we will close ourselves off to you immediately.

  1.  Caging us will cause damage. 

We are like birds; we need to be able to fly freely to wherever our emotions take us. There will be highs and lows and twisting and turning in-betweens. Caging us is like clipping our wings. We will lose the light that guides our way if you try to control us. If that happens, we will shut down and the love we have to give gets tucked pretty deep inside of us. The damage is hard to undo but can be avoided by not trying to cage us.

  1.  Time alone is non-negotiable.

Empaths need to re-energize in a space that is all their own. It will look differently for everyone but chances are they need time to be alone. It can be tiring always feeling the energy of the people surrounding us, please don’t be mad or annoyed when we need to refuel on our own. It doesn’t mean we don’t love or want to be around you. It means we need to quiet our mind and replenish our energy. We will come back happier than before, I promise.

  1.  Take what we say seriously.

Empaths are extremely creative folks. There’s always a next idea that’s popping up in their head, listen to them. Take them seriously. Believe in them, even as crazy as the idea sounds. Empaths, arguably more than anyone else, have the ability to truly change the world. Listen to them when they pour their hearts out to you. Because somewhere in between their excitement, their passion and words that get jumbled, something quite amazing is ready to be created.

  1.  Being supportive helps us open up

We know we’re different, this isn’t new to us. We know the way we see life doesn’t make sense to a lot of non-empathetic people. We also know there’s a whole world of people out there trying to change us. If you want to love us, support us. Step out on a limb and put a little faith in us. This actually helps us feel safe enough to more open about who we are.

  1.  Our intuition is usually spot on.

Contrary to popular belief, we actually do know what we’re talking about. We’re empathetic, remember? We feel everything. So, when we have a good feeling about something, trust us. When we have a bad feeling about something, trust us. When we go after a dream because it speaks to our hearts, trust us. When we think somebody is lying, trust us. For a non-empathetic person I understand this is putting a lot of “blind faith” in someone but trust me, trusting the Empath in your life will show her that you believe in what she’s saying.

  1.  Be honest; dishonesty destroys us.

As an Empath, most people think sugar-coating things are the way to go. I will tell you with 100% certainty being honest is the ONLY way to go. The betrayal we feel from being lied to, after we have opened up our hearts and souls to you, is something that will take a very long time to recover from. It can, and most likely, will ruin your relationship. Just be honest. The couple of days of crying sure beat losing an Empath for good.

  1.  Don’t compete with the love we have for our animals.

MOST, not all, but most Empaths feel unbelievably connected to animals and have a one or two (or seven) furry friends that they ABSOLUTELY LOVE. When I say connected what I really mean is they would do anything for them. Some days you will feel like you come second to them. If you want the honest truth, you kind of do. They can’t help it. The love they feel for their pets is different from the love they feel for you and it shouldn’t be competed with. Don’t try. I guarantee your wife will love you more if you can accept and appreciate the deep love she has for her dog.

  1.  We need you to make us laugh.

Some days we need someone to pull us out of our non-stop minds and remind us what it is to laugh until our bellies hurt. To have fun like children do. To live in the moment and not be so serious all the time. We need someone to push the pause button for a moment and let us know it’s OK to enjoy ourselves.

  1.  Know there are some things we will never give up.

There are things in this world that speak so clearly and directly to our hearts it feels like it’s a part of us. As dramatic as it may sound, it’s almost like we won’t be ourselves without it. It could be music, painting, photography, working for a non-profit organization, feeding the homeless. Its love and passion. Some of the most passionate people in the world are Empaths. If we lose our passion, we lose ourselves. Please don’t ask or expect us to give up on something that has changed our hearts for the better.

  1.  Our hearts break daily.

It’s overwhelming being an Empath. Some days all it takes is for somebody to say one “wrong” thing to me or to see an image of something terrible or hear a story about a person I don’t know who’s gone through the unthinkable and I’m crying like a baby. Our hearts break easily. It can be devastating at times to be an Empath so on those days, let us cry. No questions or advice needed, just accept our hearts are heavy from this world and we need to cry it out.

  1.  Understand we love with great intensity.

It’s no surprise that when you feel deeply connected to almost everything, you love with great intensity. We truly feel “one” with our surroundings! So when we love somebody we feel one with them and our love is intense. It’s powerful. It can heal but in the wrong hands, it can be dangerous. In the right hands, it will change you forever. And for the better.

13.    Accept our abilities to feel the world around us.

Poking fun at our sensitivity is one thing. Judging, ridiculing and belittling who we truly are is another. Acting as if “this” is something we will “get over” is a kiss of death when in a relationship with an Empath. Accept us. Love us. We have a unique ability to see and feel the world differently. Don’t judge us, please.

  1.  Don’t cast your insecurity on us.

It takes a secure man to really love an Empathetic woman. That is the God’s honest truth. If you want to tear her down by casting your insecurity on her, sadly it may work. Feeling how others feel isn’t something she can turn off. But I know if you do that, she will hide the best of her from you. She will temporarily clip her own wings and it will be your loss. The beauty and most amazing parts of her happen when she’s in motion.

  1.  If it is too much, please leave gracefully.

Maybe you’ve met her at the wrong time, or it wasn’t meant to be forever or this is too much for you right now. Either way, love her by leaving gracefully. Do not cage her or put her down or make her feel insecure about who she is. Love her by leaving with respect and honesty. She will love and thank you for it. If you get the chance to love an Empath even just once in your life, you are lucky. It won’t always be easy but it will most definitely be worth it.

Signs you are spending time with a narcissist:

  • In the beginning they are a breath of fresh air, nonconforming like you, free spirited
  • Can easily engage in hours of conversation, like you
  • Believe they too are an empath, just like you
  • You feel like you are two peas in one pod, meant to be
  • Flattery and lots of it, at first
  • They open up about their feelings of previous break ups or family pains or crisis
  • You think they trust and value you, your opinion, and want you to help them heal
  • You feel like your energy is off the charts emotionally and sexually even spiritually
  • You think you are in love almost instantaneously
  • You start to notice that they have many female friends, like too many.
  • They have a lot of FB friends or other social media friends and a lot of opposite sex friends
  • Subtly, they will talk about how much smarter or wiser they are than everyone else, including you
  • They know what it is you really want to hear. If you feel like it is too good to be true, it is.
  • If you need affection, they’ll give a lot of it. If you need conversation, they will be experts
  • The sex is really good too.
  • They will start to contradict themselves. Do as I say, not as I do.
  • When you confront them with something small or big, they will instantly get defensive and literally tell you that you are doing all the things to them they are really doing to you. Projection- ist!
  • They get loud and animated
  • Have a hard time with differing opinions, unless they are playing devils advocate- this is a tactic used to purposely knock you off intuitive balance.  
  • You feel sorry for them and wish you could help them change….only if they….
  • They will hang up on you, ignore you for periods of time, avoid your calls all because you didn’t see something from their perspective or refuse to apologize for something you didn’t do
  • They don’t know how to just say, I’m sorry.
  • They have no grace, forgiveness or compassion for you or others, especially when it causes them to take a back seat
  • If you try to communicate in a healthy way, they will try to shame you
  • You will feel confused often and maybe not know why. Listen to that. It is your empath speaking.
  • Everything is your fault….if only you did this instead of that things would be….
  • Your intuition is saying something is wrong here, listen to it!
  • In a short time, you are already having to defend your truth, if it doesn’t agree with theirs and even still they won’t get it
  • They can be pushy with attention and time
  • You will start to hear how they wish they looked better…frequently asked if they look good… if the sex is good…if you are still attracted to them blah blah blah…
  • They are funny and at your expense, often
  • If you reciprocate, expect to feel confused and shamed. They can dish it, but not take it-even in the smallest amounts
  • If your feelings are hurt, they will tell you “to stop it,” “ suck it up” or accuse you of being dramatic or overbearing
  • You feel emotionally heavy or confused in their presence with bouts of euphoria
  • As a Christian, they love the old testament and rarely read the new testament b/c it is too ishy and squishy
  • They come off as being judgmental one minute and a defender of truth the next
  • Masters of contradiction
  • Have or had relationship troubles with parents, siblings friends, ex’s
  • They do not have a problem talking badly about their past relationships
  • You will notice they blame a lot of people for a lot of things in their life
  • They are seductive and know how to make the right moves. They may even come across as wanting to wait to have your first kiss.
  • They don’t last long with outspoken women. We scare the crap out of them.
  • If you are able to defend your truth, they will dump you over the dumbest most ridiculous things
  • They cannot have a normal discussion nor are the able to agree to disagree, you will be accused of fighting or arguing just because…
  • They are typically serial daters, go through many relationships quickly, had multiple marriages and /or consider themselves self-proclaimed loners and/or chronic cheaters
  • They are liars! If it seems too good to be true, it is! They all lie and think they can get away with it. 
  • They typically engage in gambling, too much drinking, smoking, partying at old ages, and although they profess to not being addicted they look at it as “occasionally” engaging in destructive behavior. Typically narcissist feel guilty for the way they think or the way they treat people, for a second. And it is in these times, their pseudo addictions surface, it helps keep them in DENIAL! They love denial.   Deep down they feel shame and lack a true identity. These are expert mask wearers! Deep down they know they can’t feel deeply, they don’t know how.

Although we tend to gravitate toward these types and they to us, the good news is, you already know the truth. Listen to yourself. If you notice discrepancy in their behavior or they are too quick to place blame on you or something else before taking any ownership, take it seriously. These types have a hard time admitting fault and taking responsibility for their behavior. They simply think that they are right and you are just being too_______! If you’re not sure, simply call them out on something or address the way they said something that hurt your feelings, and if they respond in an off way, and do not want to hear your perspective, run for the hills!! If this happens again and again even though you had this discussion numerous time, please just go! It will take you some time to shake them off. This is because they are confusing and being an empathetic or an empath we naturally want to get to the bottom of why? how? We are embarrassed that we didn’t see it sooner, we hate getting played, it breaks our hearts.


Here is another test: Written By happy sensitive.      

Empathy vs Narcissism

“Outwardly, there are some similarities between HSP-ness and narcissism. Internally, the difference is huge though. While narcissists also appear “sensitive” they lack the needed introspection to see the need to change internally. So instead, they perceive all their own issues as a direct result from other people’s actions.

HSP’s on the other hand tend to blame themselves for a lot of things that are not their responsibility at all.

For HSP’s the combination of being self-blaming with hanging out with someone who is other-blaming (aka, narcissistic) often leads to a very negative downward spiral. That’s why it’s super important for HSP’s to get knowledgeable about narcissism, how narcissists function, how to spot a narcissist and ultimately, how to heal yourself (Happy sensitive, http://thehappysensitive.com/series/empathy-vs-narcissism/).” Check out the many other articles offered on her site.


I have added some links for your pleasure seeking empath knowledge.







Written By Amy Casale Choisser MS RMHCI  2015




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